I have a propensity for learning what I’m interested in learning while discounting all other topics. I’m sure I’m not the only one. I also struggle with the fact that I’m interested in far too many things, and for that I find a shortage of time in my day to pursue everything I want to pursue. Something tells me we’re on the same page, no?
Life is full of patterns that may be confusing, or hidden, or not evident, but that ultimately have meaning. There are large patterns, small patterns, and patterns inside of patterns. Sometimes we have to literally as well as metaphorically step back to see what we’re looking at, otherwise we won’t know where we are, nor where we are going.
When we don’t know where we are, we tend to panic and make irrational decisions. Sometimes the consequences of those blind decisions are painful, and other times they are rewarding. The problem with rewards related to uninformed decisions is that the behavior is re-inforced, and we repeat the same error, opening us up to future repetitive failure. When we aren’t lucky enough to be rewarded for bad behavior, it could be a perfect opportunity to correct future behavior. Often even that is ignored and we repeat the same actions attempting to achieve different results, all of this being brought on by one simple failure…the failure to find the “You Are Here.”
The “You Are Here” is the first point everyone looks for on a map to determine where they should go next. Knowing where you stand in anything in life is critical to managing healthy decision-making for your future. This truth couldn’t be emphasized more when it comes to financial decisions and behaviors. Knowing where you stand financially will help you make better purchasing decisions, especially when it comes to buying a house.
Our culture will continue to shove the inaccurate concept that affordability = payments, and that as long as you have enough to make the payment, you can afford whatever it is you’re going to purchase. This couldn’t be further from the truth as it disconnects you from all of the costs associated with making a particular purchase.
Life and houses and cars and kids are expensive. If you learn only one lesson in the next year, make it this one. Never be afraid of looking at the patterns in your life and thinking about them critically. Knowing where you are, knowing where “You Are Here” is for you is the first step to relieving yourself of the unrealistic fear and unnecessary anxiety that fills the empty space.
You Are Here has great power!